Our Own Worst Critic
You’ve most likely heard it said that we are “Our own worst critics.” Cliché, yes, but true. I don’t think many of us would treat our friends the way we treat ourselves sometimes. We set for ourselves a standard – often impossibly high – and then beat ourselves up for failing to meet our (too) lofty targets.
Doesn’t make much sense, does it?
We say we’re going to lose some weight. We hire a trainer. We get on a food plan. We’re doing well for a time, but something happens and, for a day or two, we fall off.
“Stupid!” we scream at ourselves. “Idiot!” “Weak!” “Lazy!” We throw a pile of (untrue) adjectives at our already-low self-esteem, and we end up anxious, depressed, and feeling hopeless. Then, what do we do? We usually eat to comfort ourselves.
This. Is. Insanity.
And it needs to stop.
Here’s the test: would you say to your friend what you’re saying to yourself? If your friend “failed” (I hate that word) at a task, would you call them a bunch of nasty names to annihilate their opinion of themselves? Of course you wouldn’t. You’d try to offer as much support as you could.
Why can’t you do that with yourself?
Love Yourself Now
We don’t love ourselves. Actually, many of us hate ourselves, if we’re honest. It then follows that we can’t be kind and gentle towards ourselves if we don’t like who we are.
No matter what you want to accomplish, you most likely won’t if you don’t make the conscious decision to start loving yourself today, just as you are. We often think that we’ll feel better about ourselves once we’ve…
…gotten that job we want
…lost the weight we’ve been trying to for so long
…found the relationship we want
…purchased that place in Florida; or
…insert your thing here.
Truth is, you won’t feel any different once you’ve accomplished these things. Why? Because you will still be you. You bring you along everywhere you go, and unless you commit today to change, you’ll be the same, feel the same, think the same, and act the same, tomorrow. This just makes sense.
Don’t wait for externals to change, hoping that they’ll generate a new internal reality for you. Changing your internal reality is, by nature, an “inside job.” You must do it from the inside-out, not the outside-in.
A positive change in your external reality can have a positive effect on how you feel about yourself. I don’t argue this at all. However, if your starting point is a place of self-loathing and low self-worth, the positive feelings won’t last. It’s only when you change your internal reality that positive changes in your external reality will have any lasting effect.
Who Am I?
My name is Marc Spinoza, and I’m an erotic masseur in the Greater Toronto Area. I am a sensual masseur, offering incall services in my private townhome in Mississauga, a suburb of Toronto. I also offer outcall services, and have an entire kit that I travel with, should you wish for me to come visit you.
I also offer full escort services to women and couples. If you live in Hamilton, Burlington, Oakville, Mississauga, Brampton, Etobicoke, or anywhere in the GTA and beyond, I can service your needs. I can come to you, or you can come to me.
I offer a sensual and erotic massage experience that you will not soon forget. I also offer “Sensate Therapy,” which is non-sexual touch designed to get you in touch with your body, to help you to learn how to connect with you as you are. This helps with self-acceptance, a problem many often face.
How to Love Yourself Today
How to do this is complex and goes beyond the scope of what I can explain in a short blog. However, one thing you can do is come see me and allow yourself to be cared for…really cared for. Gentle touch, caressing, conversation and intimacy in a quiet, peaceful space may be just the thing for you.
Come and let me pamper and cherish you. It may be just what you need to begin to be able to see just how awesome you truly are!