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Faith vs. Fear


This piece might not sit well with some, but I think it’ll be helpful to many.  It’s about belief in something greater than myself.  How many of you believe in a “Higher Power” of sorts?  Here’s what the data says:

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If you add up the first 3 categories of people who believe in something, it comes out to 90%.  90%!  I’m going to take that as permission to share with you my thoughts on faith, because, apparently, there’s about a 9 in 10 chance that you believe in something greater than you.

So, why should I consider belief in something greater than me?  And why do so many seem to have this belief?


Pascal’s Wager

Blaise Pascal, a 17th-century mathematician, physicist, inventor, writer and theologian, argued essentially that it’s a better “bet” to believe than to not believe.  If you believe and God doesn’t exist, you’d have lived a good life anyhow.  If you instead choose to not believe and it is true that there is a God, then you risk your soul eternally.  I think that many, over the ages, have chosen to believe simply to avoid eternal damnation.

Myself personally I no longer hold to the belief that there’s a place called hell where we go to be punished eternally for displeasing the Creator.  This, I believe, is a human construct designed to keep people in bondage to religion.  I think there’s an increasing number of people who would agree with this.

So, “Pascal’s Wager”-type thinking is decreasing in prevalence, I believe, as people seek out spiritual truth.  And, quite frankly, to that I say a hearty “Amen” and “Thank God.”

I remember in my Systematic Theology class back in the 90s, when a staunch Calvinist student was railing on about the need to “Tell people about Jesus” in order to “Save them all from hell.”  My professor, a beautiful man, just shook his head, and finally, when given the opportunity to speak said something I’ll never forget: “We don’t tell people about God because we’re scared He’ll send them to hell.  We tell people about God because He is beautiful!”

I loved this, and have tried to live by it ever since.


Do You Believe?

Apparently, most of you do.  If so, why do you believe?  And how deep is that belief?  Is it true faith?   The difference between faith and belief is best illustrated by an example:

If I need to get my car fixed, but don’t know where to go, I might turn to a good friend to get a recommendation for a mechanic.  I can reasonably believe that whoever they recommend will do a good job, because this is a friend that I know well who has never steered me wrong.  But it’s only after I’ve visited that mechanic, and they’ve done a good job, plus have charged me a fair price and given me good service that I will have faith in them as a decent mechanic.

Translation: I know they are a good mechanic because I’ve experienced it.  That’s what faith is, an inner knowing that my Higher Power is there, has my best interests at heart, and will provide me with what I need if I stay close to Whomever this Being is and perform Their work well in this life.

True faith – and I admit I am not often good at this – results in the absence of fear.  And that’s a good way to live.  Today I don’t personally feel the need to amass money in order to manage my fear of economic insecurity.  Instead I would rather trust that my Higher Power has got my back, and is taking care of me even in the times that it looks like things are a little thin.


The Fear of “Never Enough”

Tony Robbins once said something to the effect of that when the fear of lack disappears, abundance will appear.  The key, IMHO, to dealing with fear of not having enough, of not being enough, of not knowing enough, of not seeing enough, of not doing enough, etc. is to have faith.  Faith that there is something out there that has me in the palm of Its hand, and knowing I am being taken care of, even when it seems that everything around me is crumbling to pieces.

I’m writing this to you because I’m going through a phase where I am absolutely sucking at doing this.  This is a good reminder for me to get off my butt and do what it is I counsel those who come to see me when they’re struggling with fear.  Right now, in this moment, my self-esteem wants to tell me that I’m not enough.  That I haven’t accomplished enough.  That I haven’t been good enough.  That I’ve failed.

What do I do?


Time to Choose

I have a choice to make: choose to believe the voice in my head (my internal critic, the liar), or to believe what I believe is true for everyone else.  The answer is simple: Higher Power didn’t make no junk, and that includes me.  When I point my finger at you and make that statement, there are 3 pointing back at me.

I ain’t junk.

You ain’t junk.

There is a Higher Power, and all They are asking of me is 4 things:

1.  Surrender the fear – let it go

2. Ask the universe to tell me what it is I should “be” today, and focus on BEING just that.

3. Stop DOING: stop running around trying to fix things to make myself feel better.  It’s not working.  Let’s   let Higher Power take it from here.  Then…

4. Do the next thing that’s put in front of me

Then, let the fear go, and watch abundance settle in its place.


Who am I?

My name is Marc Spinoza, and I am an escort/Sacred Intimate in the Greater Toronto Area.  I offer Experiential Intimacy Coaching and escort services from my home base in Mississauga.  I also do outcalls in the GTA and beyond.  The platform I work off is erotic massage, to build connection and intimacy with those I work with.

I also offer life coaching services in the context of Intimacy Coaching.  I can help you work through sticking points and issues in your life that hold you back.  I can help you become the best “you” that you can be.

If you think you might like to learn more about what I do and how I do it, I invite you to reach out to me at www.marcspinozamassage.com/contact, or at marcspinoza2017@gmail.com.  Alternately you can call/text me at 647-703-9515.  I’d love to hear from you!


N.B. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2018/04/25/most-americans-believe-in-a-higher-power-but-not-always-in-the-god-of-the-bible/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.0ece42d6d2d6, accessed 6/13/19.

14 Jun 19