What You Look Like Really Doesn’t Matter
It saddens me to think how many ladies feel they have to “warn” me – prior to meeting them – that they carry some excess weight. I’m an erotic masseur, and intimacy happens often in sessions with me. Ladies are scared, I guess, that I might reject them because they are “overweight”.
I’ll tell you the truth on this one: I’ve been doing this now for 5 years, and I have never once turned anyone away because of any aspect of their physicality. To me, it just doesn’t matter. Really and truly. It doesn’t.
Why is that? I’m sure some of you are having trouble believing me. Let me spell it out for you below .
The Life of an Empath
I’m what’s called an “Empath”. No, that doesn’t mean that I’m extraordinarily “empathetic,” although I like to think that empathy is one of my positive qualities. What it means is that I transact with others energetically more than anything else. I “feel” you much more than I “see” you. When you’re hurting – physically, mentally, or emotionally – I can feel it. When you’re happy, I can feel that too.
If you have a calm, gentle, kind energy, then we are going to get along well, regardless of how good-looking you think you are, or are not. We will gel regardless of how large your frame is. We will gel regardless of what you think others perceive when they see your physicality, and regardless what negative comments you may have received, in the past, from others.
If you have good energy, chances are that we will be able to connect, and that there will be intimacy between us. I’ve never been one who cares about body shape or size. I’ve dated thin women, and I’ve dated “larger” women. It really doesn’t matter to me.
Choose What Messages You Listen to
I’m going to suggest that if you’ve been saddled with negativity about your body size and shape, by either society or certain individuals, it’s time to move on from that. Body-shaming is a terrible thing, and you need to know that you are a beautiful human, wonderfully made, just the way you are.
Sure, if you’re overweight and you want to lose some, go for it! I lost 85 lbs back in 2003 and I don’t regret it a bit. But not as much because of how I look as because of the health benefits that have accrued to me because of my weight loss.
And, by the way, if you want to lose weight, you really need to start loving who you are – all of you, including your physicality – right now. Because, if you don’t, you’ll sabotage every attempt you make at losing excess pounds. I know this, because I’ve seen it happen repeatedly. And why wouldn’t it? If I hate myself, I’m going to sabotage any good I try to do for myself because I don’t believe I’m worth it.
Just know that, regardless of the “size” of your frame, I don’t care. I just. Don’t. Care.
Who am I?
My name is Marc Spinoza, and I am an escort/Sacred Intimate in the Greater Toronto Area. I offer Experiential Intimacy Coaching and escort services from my home base in Mississauga. I also do outcalls in the GTA and beyond. The platform I work off is erotic massage, to build connection and intimacy with those I work with.
I also offer life coaching services in the context of Intimacy Coaching. I can help you work through sticking points and issues in your life that hold you back. I can help you become the best “you” that you can be.
If you think that you might have issues to work through around your relationship with your body, I’d like to help. Perhaps you’re afraid that if you don’t actively “hate” your body as it is now, you won’t be motivated to lose weight. I can assure you that this isn’t the case and, as I mentioned above, is a counterproductive attitude. I can show how to change your thinking to maximize your chances at success.
If you think you might like to learn more about what I do and how I do it, I invite you to reach out to me at www.marcspinozamassage.com/contact, or at firstname.lastname@example.org. Alternately you can call/text me at 647-703-9515. I’d love to hear from you!