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The Game-Changer

A client recently made a request that I had not yet, to that point, encountered.  She asked that, for the first portion of her session, I be the one on the massage table.  Lacking confidence that she didn’t know how to properly touch a man, she wanted to experiment by touching me.  Just touch.  Nothing sexual, just human contact, skin-on-skin.

The result was game-changing for me, both personally and professionally.  I am a provider of sensual massage services, and, as such, am used to “giving” touch, without always receiving in return.  This is as it should be: people are paying me to be touched in the way they want.  They are not paying me for them to touch me the way I want.

But outside of my sessions with my clients, I realize that I now have to consider exactly how to get my touch needs met.  And, if I learned anything from this encounter, I have some serious touch needs!  She was awesome: I thoroughly enjoyed the feeling of her hands on my body, knowing there was no expectation of eroticism or sex.  That I could just lie there and receive.  It was increcdible!

I’m a single man, and I’m not really interested in having a partner at this point in my life.  I’m introverted enough that I find being alone energizing, and so I’ve learned that I need to honour that.  I’m also not really one to “play around,” as it were, so I’m not looking for “hookups” or “FWB”-type encounters.  My work ensures that my libido is well taken care of (:)), but what about my need for touch?!?  What about your need for touch?  What are you and I doing about that?

 

Reach Out and Touch Someone!

In the 1980s, AT&T ran a campaign encouraging people to “Reach out and touch someone.”  Of course, they were hoping to bill more long-distance and earn more revenue.  That aside, their ads were targeting the natural human need for connection.  I would suggest that we, as humans, cannot live in isolation.  That we were made for community: we need others with whom we can identify and associate.  That’s a natural, normal need.

We need to connect with others mentally, emotionally and – I would argue – spiritually.  This is why I have created “Pillow Talk” (you can learn more about this here ). But we also need to connect physically with others, and that’s where practitioners like me come in!

We need physical touch as well.  Massage therapists often provide that for clients who otherwise don’t experience regular touch.  I believe it’s a valid service, and something I’m happy to do for my clients.

Diana Ross even sang a song about it, called “Reach Out and Touch”:

Reach out and touch
Somebody’s hand
Make this world a better place
If you can
Reach out and touch
Somebody’s hand
Make this world a better place
If you can

I’ve already retained a practitioner for myself (Monica Kovacs: www.monicakovacs.ca; she’s awesome!).  But you, maybe you need someone to “Reach out and touch” you?!?  That’s where I can help you out (well, Monica can too, if you prefer a woman!).  I offer basic touch therapy that, well, from all reports is really quite amazing (if I do say so myself!).  What I experienced at the hands of my client, and continue to experience under Monica’s expert ministrations , is truly transformative.  I’d love for you to experience it.

 

It’s Not Always About Sex

I love sex and am always open to including it in the time my female clients spend with me.  (Men, I’m straight, but still do offer erotic massage and touch therapy  to you, so don’t despair!).  But in my books sex isn’t everything.  I would argue that, often when we’re thinking about a sexual connection, we’re really in need of touch, more than anything else.  That might not be what we’re wanting in the moment, but I do believe it’s what we’re in need of.

How many people I have known who have given themselves to a partner sexually NOT because they wanted sex.  They just wanted to be held.  They wanted the connection.  They wanted to be TOUCHED.  So, they entered in to what they thought was a fair compromise: I’ll give you sex, if you just touch me.  But these encounters are often unsatisfying, because the other partner isn’t looking for touch: they’re only looking for sex.  And too often the other is quick to leave the bed after “finishing,” without the much-needed and sought-after “cuddle time

How unsatisfying – and even painful – is this?  All we wanted was connection, and instead we were left feeling disconnected: from our partner, from the world, from ourselves, and likely from whatever our source of spiritual nourishment is.  We feel empty.  How do we fill up again?

As we turn away from lust, and instead seek out true intimacy and connection, we begin to discover who we really are.

 

Who Am I?

My name is Marc Spinoza, and I am an erotic/sensual masseur and Sensate Therapy  practitioner in the GTA.  I work from my home in Mississauga, and will do outcalls upon request.

I offer my erotic massage services to those living in Toronto, Mississauga, Etobicoke, Brampton, Oakville, Burlington, Hamilton, Stoney Creek, Caledon, Scarborough and beyond.  You can come to me, or I to you, it’s your call!

If it’s touch you crave, why not come and try a “Sensate Therapy” session with me.  I offer Sensate Therapy for women  as well as for men.  Why not call me to experience some simple, healing, nonsexual touch?  You’ll be amazed at the result!

Reach out via text/phone at 647-703-9515, or e-mail at marcspinoza2017@gmail.com.  Alternately you can contact me here: www.marcspinozamassage.com/contact.  Either way, I’d love to hear from you!